Will the REAL Black Man PLEASE STAND UP! PART ONE!!!!!

This entry is a few months old and came from my old blog.... posting this so u can catch up! Im working on PART TWO! ;-) Suggestions, Comments? Plz leave feedback! And I'm still looking for men to interview! lol

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Will the REAL Black Man PLEASE STAND UP! PART ONE!!!!!

1^st off I am dedicating this topic to a very near and dear cousin of mine, and to ALL the male species I’ve dealt with…  Please get it 2gether!!! SMH (shaking my head)

Now that’s out the way…

The shortage of black MEN is ridiculous! This makes no sense… We (single black women) are in a recession because the black MAN is definitely on a SHORT SUPPLY! SAD…. But TRUE….

Sidebar…

Before I continue… when I refer to the BLACK MAN… I do NOT refer to:

• ·         Boys that think they’re men <-- they haven’t fully let boyhood say goodbye and manhood say hello!

• ·         ‘Negros’ ‘Niggas’  ‘COONS’ however u wanna coin it these days <-- ‘hood’ mentality, that instant “Imma make this money real quick and we’ll be set 4 life” dudes  (please!)

• ·         ‘I’m not responsible for nothing unless I sign with my blood’ type of guy <-- this is the one that feeds u the fairytale and bails out on u! lol The one who gives u nothing but false hope and smoke! 

~Now those are the ones we’re gonna focus on this segment… if u wanna talk about others drop it in the comment section…  but those topics r pretty darn broad…

AnyWHO…

The high demand and the short supply of our Black Men, really has a lot…  A LOT of black women scratching their heads, trying to figure out if this is the end of days! :(

Is there any hope that we can find a MOTIVATED black man, that IS NOT: crazy, stalkerish, already TAKEN but still CREEPING, prefer another RACE, baby momma DRAMA… or BABIES PERIOD (we know slip ups happen but C’MON SON!), on the DOWN LOW, have another secret life, bad credit and not trying to repair it! (we know student loans can drive a person crazy), not educated, living with ‘momma’ and not saving to move out, druggie, alcoholic, non-believer in Jesus, SELFISH, ARROGANT, LAZY but wanna STILL WEAR THE PANTS, just plain RUDE and IGNORANT… MAN, WHEW!

I QUIT! (4 now)

It sounds like I’m bashing my Black Men… but I’m really just looking for a REAL ONE! 

Are we asking for too much men?

Seriously?!

We are eager to work with you!  <- no LIE!

LOL.

Within the past 72 hours I’ve been exposed some type of way (my life and a few close friends & family) to men that have:

• ·         Admitted to wanting you, but to comfortable to leave their current situation

• ·         In the beginning stages : drops the bomb on u that he has a baby due any day

• ·         Straddling the fence between dating you and a white women (fyi: I luv white ppl)

• ·         Verbally told you that he wants you to be the ‘side chick’

• ·         Missed what he previously had and will bug/ stalk you til he gets its back

And other coonery…. But those where the top 5

My dear sweet Black Men!!!! Why must you play these games???
 

Do we look like Taboo to you???

Having every girl ‘under ur belt’ doesn’t make you a man…

It makes you a selfish boy with a LONG track record!

Remember:  "Eye Candy is usually more sour than sweet"

Think about it!

I would love to hear from single black men on this topic!  

I promise I won’t bite!!!

Ladies…  feel free to comment as well….

And Ladies…. If u have a black MAN… you are blessed!

Keep him… because he knows he’s on short supply and will try to act like the ‘playa’…. Or maybe not…

LOL.

Maybe not….

REAL BLACK MEN…. PLEASE STAND UP!!

ARE U SINKING? CAUSE I’LL THROW IN A FLOATIE TO SAVE U!! 

SERIOUSLY !

WHERE ARE U?

WE NEED U….

To be continued….

Hiding....

Silence is medication for sorrow. ~Arab Proverb

Yes! I've came out of hiding... plz don't rejoice 4 too long... because I plan on returning to my black hole... lol...

like Jay-Z..... on to the next!!!!!

OBAMA WILL SIGN THE HEALTH REFORM BILL TOMORROW!!!!!!

DO U KNOW WHAT THIS MEANS TO ME!?!?!

DO U?

DO U?

This means even though I have a love/hate relationship with Kaiser I will still be on my fathers insurance until I'm 26, instead of getting the boot in 2 months!

This means the world to me cuz in the past few weeks.... doctors have found a ton of stuff.... and a lot of these new found things MUST be monitored closely for the next few months to determine treatment and possible surgeries...

So yes my SAGA continues....

the plot HAS thicken...

And I am trying my best to remain sane...

But there is some type of hope that some answers will b answered....

Doctors have 3 years and 2 1/2 months to figure this thing out....

Let's get it!!!

Back to my hiding place....

I think I may update this blog a lot.... I'm thinking about it....

And please do not take offense if do not answer ur calls, txts, etc

Respect that fact that I'm going through some things that I rather go through alone...

When I feel like speaking, I will pick up the phone... or reach out to u in another form of communication.... until then.... check the blog every few days, u might get a surprise!

No hard feelings!

man UP!!! lol

U WILL LIVE!!!

And if u feel like ur dying.... plz do not call me.... call 911....

Thanks!

Until next time!

The Alternative… (UR HELP IS REQUIRED!)

 

It appears that I may have caught a nasty tummy virus from a co-worker….  so let’s say this entry will be shorter than intended!

not sure how many readers I have since I keep flopping back n forth with sites…

but u have a homework assignment

Yes YOU!

I have exhausted almost every outlet (in Georgia)                      I could obtain to find out what is causing me to be sick….

Thought I was going home (Ohio) to get a second opinion, but seems like no one believes in that dream… I don’t think that would hurt… but that’s another story…  :-\

I have been ill for years without a cure…

and it’s become a struggle to just ‘DEAL’ with it lately

So….

{this is where u come in and help me… hopefully SAVE me}

Lets look into alternative medicine…. (herbs, acupuncture, etc)

I need you to help research… I am willing to try anything that will manage and possibly cure this weird thing!

I have NO other options…

BUT U!!!!!!

Are you willing?

Symptoms….

• Lupus like symptoms (test have been negative but symptoms remain)
• Swelling
• Light colored skin spots (very close to ‘tinea versicolor’)
• Dark colored skin spots
• Anemia
• Allergic reaction to… something… no one knows… but severe allergies…. possibly to FOOD
• Hives
• INSOMNIA!!!!!
• Constant weight gain
• Cysts
• Locking of joints
• Poor circulation

And there’s a few more that I wont post… but will be happy to email them to you…

Overwhelmed?

lol

Try living with that and more without an answer for almost   SIX YEARS!! 

The symptoms are getting worse and this is URGENT!!!

Well if your overwhelmed, PLEASE do not ignore this entry…

Instead

Pick ONE SYMPTOM

JUST ONE!

Research alternatives to help manage/cure it

Feel free to comment your findings below

OR

email me: mycheri519@gmail.com

Simple!

While ur on facebook, twitter, gossip sites, etc,

u could take TEN minutes to search the net, and possibly help me find a cure to these mysterious illnesses….

SPREAD THE WORD!

I HAVE FAITH IN YOU!

YOU CAN REALLY HELP ME!

SOOO PLEASE DO NOT IGNORE!!!!

I AM DEPENDING ON YOU!

LET’S GOOOOO PEOPLE!!! ;-)

 

SPREAD THE WORD!!!!

 

any questions… feel free to ask… you can always find me somewhere on this world wide web! ;-)

PLEASE HELP!

YOU ARE MY ONLY OPTION!

AND IF U KNOW ANYONE WHO SPECIALIZES IN ANYTHING RELATED TO HEALTH… ASK THEM!!!

WORD OF MOUTH IS POWERFUL!

POST ON UR TWITTER’S, FACEBOOK, BBM statuses, anywhere to get the word out!

PLEASE HELP!

I REFUSE TO LIVE ANOTHER YEAR WITHOUT AN ANSWER… A CURE….

SPREAD THE WORD!

LET’S FIND A CURE!!!

;-)

*Another Disclaimer*

My heart is not proud, O LORD , my eyes are not haughty; I do not concern myself with great matters or things too wonderful for me. But I have stilled and quieted my soul; like a weaned child with its mother, like a weaned child is my soul within me.

Psalm 131:1-2

As u know I'm going through a few things.... and I have chosen to 'be still' and sort them on my own...

I refuse to be anyone's burden...

I hope you would take my previous entry as me redefining, rearranging, reconstructing my life...

NOT me on the verge of jumping OFF a CLIFF!

The entry was to show that I am okay with being alone...

adjusting to depending on solely yourself for emotional, physical support is what hurts...

That's why I made that choice...

Hoping I can truly love myself in this process, instead of faking the funk & depending on others that will eventually let u down....

so please don't take the distant thing the wrong way

Please do not give me advice

If I need it, I will ask

Promise!

Matter of fact... stay tuned.... I have some questions for u all 2nite!

I want you all to play a roll in this journey... it will be fun... ;)

Hope u will learn something about urself during this as well!

I Walk Alone…

 

Life is rough…

painful…

& unfair…

 

But it’s life, and we must live it…

All of those things are heightened even more, when ur going through it alone.

These past few days have been more than interesting, and I am truly convinced that I am alone.

When you have had a supporter that has invested so much in your life, and they say that they cannot play that particular role any longer… it hurts

Feels like my system has crashed, and my I.T. person, who has all my backup data is no where to be found

How do u reboot?

How can u restore?

I am aware of all of the unfortunate situations that are going on….

But when you play such a vital role… u cannot walk away…

but they did.

It hurts.

And I’m sure they have no clue

that their words hurt.

Taking the hint that I am a burden…

So I am choosing to walk alone…

this is a fragile state…

But at the end of the day, I must be satisfied with myself

So I am alone, forced, but by choice…

I want to conquer this alone, now…

I pray I’m strong enough…

 

Communication annoys me @ the moment….

Pray that being alone brings more clarity than harm…

Stay Tuned.

This should be interesting!

 

 

*Disclaimer*

Some things u must go through alone in order to grow….

So please do not take offense!

New Site!

Once again I’ve switched over blog sites… and I’m back on blogspot!

Lets see how long I keep this up! lol.

Well like always…

please fasten ur seat belts cuz this ride is not liable for any bruised/broken egos and feelings… sorry in advance, but im sure u’ll enjoy!!! ;-)

In this particular blog, I’m pulling off all of the infected layers in my life to gain some peace of mind….

growing pains hurt, so if u don’t mind my rants and frustrations u should be ‘a okay’ ;-)

Welcome